Finding Clarity


For the past few months, I’ve been reading a lot of books and articles about HAPPINESS. 

At my age and state, I usually ask myself “Why can’t I be a happy person?”

I started feeling depressed. Not because I’m broke or failed my relationships. Most of the time I try to display a strong and stable personality, but in truth, I was worried.

What am I going to do with my life?

My friends are getting married.

Some are moving abroad.

Some have already started a family.

Most are already successful.

I’m doing pretty well myself. I have a stable job, my parents are still together, I have a wonderful relationship with my siblings, I recently met a very special person who inspires me everyday, I only have few friends but those I know won’t let me down.

But I still feel left behind. Like some hole was still there, unfilled. Most of the time I feel confused.

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When you feel the same, what do you need to do?

Well, how are you supposed to move your life forward when you don’t even know what you feel or why you feel it? 

“I feel bad and I don’t understand why.”

You may be having a difficult time understanding or distinguishing your emotions like me.

Whenever I feel that I’m about to tick-off, I replay happy memories from the past that I tried to keep deep in my head. That way, any actions produced from a negative emotion will be prevented. Say you had an argument with a colleague at the office and you can’t say out loud your anger so you posted your rant on social media, how do you think people respond to that? 

We all have our problems and sharing yours all over your virtual friends won’t help, that’s annoying.

When you feel overwhelmed or confused, PAUSE. Try to identify what caused your sadness or shifts in your mood. What you currently feel and what you want to do about it. Take a journal and write down your thoughts, trust me it works.

Don’t let it get to your head.


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10 thoughts on “Finding Clarity

  1. Hi Jen,
    I also felt that way, when I am still looking for my purpose in life. There are times that after I leave the office I would choose to stroll around and walk not knowing where I am heading to. I felt like I am lost and tired and burnt out with everything. Until one day, I just found myself singing and worshipping and crying my heart out to Jesus and in an instant I felt like I am in my right place in the world.

    Matthew 11:28-30
    “Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.”

    You are never alone, Jesus is always there during our loud and quiet times. We just have to seek for Him and lay all our fears, brokenness and emptiness in Him. I pray that you find your purpose in Him.

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  2. Dear Jenny,
    Mood swing is not a problem at all , look around u , everything change with time, u see three different weather in a year in your country. We see sudden change in weather also, then why do u worry if your u feel sudden mood change. Let’s take an example of sudden rain, some people hate it but some people they love rain and they start playing when its raining . So focus more on the people who love it.

    And don’t worry if all your friends are getting married and settled , u r also well settled in your life.
    Start liking your own company and believe me u will never ever feel lonlyness.
    As you said u have few friends who will never let u down, that’s really good atleast u have few good friends, believe me not everyone is lucky enough to have atleasy one real friend.
    Leave all your problems on God and have faith in God. He has the best plan for everyone. If he chose u to be alone now it means u r capable enough to take care of yourself , your friends and family. U r more stronger than others.
    In last if your mood swing happen because of some argument in office, then join a boxing class after office 😋😋😋 and release all your frustration.
    Rest u will find other stuff on internet that do meditation, try to be happy and all.
    I would say that u r doing good and always keep doing the good thing in your life , god will take care of all your problems.

    Someone from North.

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    1. Thanks! Really appreciate it. Your comment is longer than my post lol. You said to start liking your own company, I agree. And boxing is on the list. Thank you! Regards from MNL

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  3. Most people think that having money solves everything, while the challenge starts there …
    It takes some guts to stay alive, and not being disappointed by the world around us.
    Don’t expect anything, and find targets to achieve. Stop balancing what should not be too completely balanced, stop searching for the unsearchable. Breathe , eat , dream , enjoy , travel meet people make friends do something that scares you and dont get deluded because at the end of the day we all die alone. 🙂

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  4. There is no standard timeline in life besh 🙂
    We all have perfect timeline in which God plans for us.

    There was also a point in my life where I keep on comparing myself to other and keep asking how are they unlocking that goal in just a short span of time. I will feel blue and the competitive me would wan to do a fast track to reach that goal.
    And then my friends told me that they jealous of me because I have reach so much in my life, that actually opens my eyes that hey! I am actually doing good. I just don’t see it I keep on comparing myself with others.

    From that day I just choose to be thankful to whatever I have and be genuinely happy for others achievement in life.

    You are doing great besh :)Don’t worry ♥

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